Alcoholics Anonymous, Fourth Edition

CHAPTER 8 - TO WIVES

There are exceptions. Some men have been so im­-
paired by alcohol that they cannot stop. Sometimes
there are cases where alcoholism is complicated by
other disorders. A good doctor or psychiatrist can tell
you whether these complications are serious. In any
event, try to have your husband read this book. His
reaction may be one of enthusiasm. If he is already
committed to an institution, but can convince you and
your doctor that he means business, give him a chance
to try our method, unless the doctor thinks his mental
condition too abnormal or dangerous. We make this
recommendation with some confidence. For years we
have been working with alcoholics committed to in­-
stitutions. Since this book was first published, A.A.
has released thousands of alcoholics from asylums and
hospitals of every kind. The majority have never re­-
turned. The power of God goes deep!

You may have the reverse situation on your hands.
Perhaps you have a husband who is at large, but who
should be committed. Some men cannot or will not
get over alcoholism. When they become too danger­-
ous, we think the kind thing is to lock them up, but of
course a good doctor should always be consulted. The
wives and children of such men suffer horribly, but
not more than the men themselves.

But sometimes you must start life anew. We know
women who have done it. If such women adopt a
spiritual way of life their road will be smoother.

If your husband is a drinker, you probably worry
over what other people are thinking and you hate to
meet your friends. You draw more and more into
yourself and you think everyone is talking about con­-
ditions at your home. You avoid the subject of drink­-